Urjit and his Dearest Bobo Mamu
Jun 2nd, 2008 by admin
I was thinking of uploading the cute snaps and video of Urjit and his Bobo Mamu, which I had captured recently, never ever thought that this was going to be the last snap I am clicking of my dear brother and this was the last video I am making.
Life is tough and we all are still trying to cope with his loss and Urjit’s queries about his Bobo Mamu makes it really hard. I feel he is too young to understand death and what it means. But someday when he is big enough to understand, I will tell him how; lucky he is to have enjoyed his Bobo mamu’s company for 5 years. For my son, his mamu was his role model and always used to look forward to his vacations when Bobo mamu would come home and spend time with him doing all his favorite things.. painting, sketching, drawing, jumping around, fighting…
He was so happy when he came to know that his mamu has got a gf and he was the first one to inform me that his bobo mamu got a gf. Urjit always used to be moving around his mamu in nani’s place also so he saw bobo mamu’s photo holding one girl and he came running to me to inform me that bobo mamu has got a gf now. And when we used to call up Bobo and Bobo was busy playing on field or riding a bike, Seeratt would speak to him and Urjit was very excited the first time he spoke with her.. I remember his exact words.. He was telling me..”Mamma, I am sure this girl must be Bobo mamu’s girlfriend.” He was quick to add “For so many days, mamu was busy doing only coloring and sketching and finally in college he got one gf” and was happy for his Bobo mamu.
Bobbo was in school, when he came to know that I was expecting and he was very excited. He had asked my sisters, if he is going to become a mama soon and he had come down with dad when Sanna was born. One day my mom-in-law was going for bath so she asked Bobo to keep an eye on Urjit. Urjit started crying so badly and Bobo as told to him.. was busy just looking at him.. not knowing what to do. And my mother-in-law still remembers how Bobo followed her words literally.. keep an eye!!
Recently also before leaving for Kerala, he used to come over to my place almost everyday and used to keep playing with Urjit.. reading story books, teaching him how to color, feeding him and making him sleep in the afternoons.. Urjit will get up in between.. and used to ask “ Bobo mamu, my sleeping time is over?” and Bob would say no.. hug him and then again let him sleep more. And when Urjit wanted to go for swimming he was so eager to take mamu along and swim with him….. Bobo was so patient with Urjit.. always so caring and when Sanna used to trouble him a lot.. by jumping over on him.. and he will raise his voice and say.. “Gutoor…” that’s it.. but Urjit’s actions would again make him smile. During his last days he was so busy on phone talking and smsing and my son would keep on telling me.. “You know mamma, Bobo mamu loves his gf very much” when asked “why?” . He would reply..” You see.. Bobo mamu is always busy talking to his gf, he talks with her for so long”.
Everyday he enquires me about his mamu, he knows that something bad has happened to his mamu but does not really know exactly. So he thinks that mamu is there in hospital, he got lost and he is not able to find his way back to home..and whenever we go out..he thinks we are going to meet his mamu. He often askes me to dial Bobo ‘s number so that he can talk to his mamu. I have told him that Bobo mamu has gone very far from us….. Urjit does not know that he mamu is no more with us and we are left with only the sweet memories of his dearest mamu……….
I tried to get to this page before also seeing your Orkut title but in vain. I can feel your deep loss for your bro and Urjit’s mamu. Read somewhere in this blog that he’s a creative guy in NID.
Somewhere along the line, we bloggers get to know each other’s family and kind of like reading each other’s life. I do connect with your loss too , as I have also been a part of your life’s journey though virtually till date. But nevertheless, connected.
Cherish the memories and how lucky Urjit and we all are to have somebody like your creative bro’ in our midst even if it was for a very short time.
Asha & Urjit , my deepest condolences to you and your family.
its a lovely n a touchin piece u have written asha didi. i still remember tha day wen we were n d bike n i answered bobo’s call. the next thing i hear is dis cut n adorable boy’s voice askin 4 his bobo mamu:) dat day we had gone 4 really long drive, 4m nid to the highway… will always cherish all my memories with him.